I was the spouse without the built-in job structure, and that made the move harder than people expected. School, housing, language, and visa details are all connected, so one small delay can create a lot of stress. Before committing, test the weekday version: school drop-off, grocery routine, commute, doctor access, and evening energy. The first few months were not a fair test. They were setup, loneliness, paperwork, and too many small decisions.