I was the spouse without the built-in job structure, and that made the move harder than people expected. Diversity, school ratings, train access, and house size do not always line up neatly, so every family ends up choosing a trade-off. The move became better when we stopped comparing the new place to the old one and started building repeatable routines. I would still make the move, but I would prepare with more cash cushion, more patience, and fewer fantasies.