The first thing to unlearn is that the Triangle is ‘one city.’ It’s three (Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill) plus a ring of suburbs, each with its own feel. Since your job’s in RTP, you’re sitting right in the middle of the triangle, which is actually the easy case — Cary, Morrisville, and Apex all give you a short RTP commute. We chose Cary for the schools-plus-convenience combo and it’s been smooth, almost suburban-on-rails.